Comments on: A Rock & A Hard Place

By: Kim (PCS)

Kim (PCS) — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 22:27:18 +0000

I totally feel for you in regard to these sticky situations. I only had one ‘official’ boyfriend before I dated my husband. Jim and I knew each other for ten years before we started dating! We were only married in 2005. So you never know what can happen! God does work in mysterious ways. So never give up hope and never stop praying about it!

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 03:40:45 +0000

Nothing ventured…nothing gained. Don’t let fear of rejection rule your life.

By: The Writer Bee

The Writer Bee — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 16:56:51 +0000

@Sparkle Pants – Agreed. I don’t want to be one of those girls who sits around and reads into everything to see something other than what it is. The fact that this has all caught me off-guard is a little…surprising…but I do think it’s probably best to just neutralize the situation and not get caught up too much in how I feel right now. I don’t think I’m past the point of no return yet – I think I could still talk myself out of liking him. That’s probably what I’ll do, but right now I’m still verbally processing the whole issue.

By: Sparkle Pants

Sparkle Pants — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 16:30:14 +0000

While it’s good that you have been friends a good long time, etc, you do realize that this puts you and mystery man squarely in the friend-zone, right? Also, I am going to assume that as a singleton you have actually read the book “He’s Just Not That Into You” as a matter of course, so you should actually know that the basic friendship is a clear sign of what he wants – friendship.

That said, I do think this is a good thing, practice-wise, you’ve found A MAN with whom you feel comfortable being yourself. Bravo! If you can practice on Mr. Mystery Meat, think how much more primed you’ll be when Mr. Right comes along.

I realize I sound like a wet blanket but I would not set any kind of hope or expectations on Mr. Mystery Friend-Zone Man other than friendship and good practice partner. To do otherwise is setting yourself up for hurt feelings later on, and the more feelings you have for him, the more feelings there are to end up getting hurt.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 14:50:11 +0000

I pretty much was going to write what Jo did…so, guess I’ll just have to talk to you!

By: Deb

Deb — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 14:10:26 +0000

I assume also that he doesn’t read my blog, but even if he did, doubt he’d know I was talking about him. I was vague on purpose.

Been friends for awhile. You’ve never met him, but I’m sure I’ve talked about him before. Thing is, I wouldn’t have said much previously b/c I only recently realized that some sort of switch had been flipped.

Mutual friends? Yeah, we have some.

By: Jo

Jo — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 13:57:38 +0000

i’m assuming this person doesn’t read your blog?

how long have you all been friends? Do i know who this is?

do you have any mutual friends?